Alan Schmitt was arrested by Newport News cops and charged with allegedly choking the unnamed 23-year-old after she called police Tuesday.
Schmitt showed up to meet the woman on Tuesday, according to an arrest affidavit first obtained by WAVY. She later told police he was "much older than he made himself out to be" on the site Plenty of Fish.
The woman said she told Schmitt she was not interested in dating, but that they could be friends.
Schmitt then took the woman to a shopping mall, where he spent $400 dollars on her, according to police documents.
At some point after their shopping trip, authorities say Schmitt asked for the items he'd bought her to be returned to him, including a shirt the woman was wearing.
"[When] she told him he could not have the shirt back," the affidavit says Schmitt "grabbed her around the neck... then threw her to the ground."